no D:, maybe my followers could help you…

you don’t have to go to anyone now, it’s done in-system.

go to my settings -> display name -> new display name

you can change your display name there every 180 days. :)

oh it’s a typo, i haven’t lol

… to be honest and frank here… I won’t be giving you any good advice because I haven’t done a confession before… let alone to a best friend…

but I guess, if you are going to tell her your true feelings you better be yourself more than anything? like don’t try to be something that you are not because if she’s going to accept you, it’s going to be for who you are…

1. and looking into the eye… well that is up to your interpretation of who things is going to break down… how about trying to practice the scenario in your head and see how it turns out…
2. YOU CAN NEVER RELAX IN A CONFESSION ARE YOU CRAZY (I mean this in a serious sense)
3. Crying would leave some sort of guilt for the other end of the confession I guess… I don’t know man…

And you should also have a contingent plan where things don’t turn out the way you want it too… better to prepare a teeny bit than not… and are you sure she likes you back?

if time allows lol

my tumblr… o_o

yes it would be hard. very hard. but communication + honesty is the key…

I did answer your question, ABC can exist but it’ll be particularly hard for them. I simply approach problems with the WILL IT EXIST OR NOT. And for the acceptability of the situation, I can accept them as long as they are truly happy but they’ll probably receive waves of eyebrow movements from me.

coz you know, problems between two lovers are humongous and think about three, like, the possible combinations of trouble.

true, being in love is a fucking scary kind of shit… even before you realize its love it will also confuse the fuck out of you… and ever after love it will ruin you.

wat dah hell man.

In an ideal world that harbours no malices, an intimate relationship between an infinite amount of people can happen because ideally everyone would love everyone, correct? But in reality, it might seem a bit too difficult. 

a person can be intimate with many people as as they want but when the other people find out that this one particular person is having an intimate relationship with another person other than them, shit happens.

For example, a man is having an intimate relationship with his secretary and also his wife. The man treats both treat them the same, gave them same amount of love. The wife finds out about this other intimate relationship.

shit happens.

A man is having an intimate relationship with his girlfriend. His girlfriend is having an intimate relationship with his bestfriend. The man finds out about his bestfriend having an intimate relationship with his girlfriend.

shit happens.

Now the examples I have just given are for love between 3 people with asymmetric information (no consensus). If there is a consensus, however, everything would be all and well. YAY.

But in order to read that consensus and that ideal setting of love, shit is kind of very difficult. Why? Because there are many different degrees of love and you can’t really truly say you love someone as equally as someone else. By that I don’t mean, I love 9 girls from snsd equally! is wrong but I meant in a very physically, mentally kind of way. I can’t really go into the love myself because I am not an expert on this and it’s pretty much straight forward.

In the case of A, B, and C. Can you truly define the love that they have between each other? Does A love be as equally as C and this go the same as everyone? What kind of love are they currently having? Is it intimate and emotional invested? What does A and B prefer? Do they accept the flaws of C and vice versa? What if the existing relationship was at first between A and C and B came into the picture making and A and C both love B, what about the relationship between A and C in the first place? Does having a relationship with B deteriorate the ties? What if it was an affair between A and B at first and C didn’t know until later? How would you be able to tell that C is okay with it or gets over the cheating completely? Think of it realistically. Do you ever want your lover to be taken away from you by another lover of that lover that you never knew of?

Would you feel okay if one day, suddenly, your parents come in and tell you that they just found this one other person they want to bring into the household and that they love this person truly and has this intimate relationship PHYSICALLY and MENTALLY with them. What if that person is the teacher you truly hate. The 3 all felt that it’s acceptable. But how would you feel?

I just read the summary of that movie but I can’t really express my opinion yet since I haven’t watched it. But it sounds rather interesting.

I think gay marriage would be accepted in the future but probably not in our decade.

and for taenysic case, you’re still mixing up reality with OTP-eality and friendship with intimate relationship.

first of all… there’s two basic case here, reality and OTPs.

by my own personal standards and how I was raised for reality: a marriage and relationship = 2 people and that is it.

 If friendship, then can be between more than two people. now let’s start with the OTPs.

why is it only taeny? why can’t it be taenysic?

a matter of preferences.

is having a partner only a trend that we adopted for ages? only two? really?

well then, first we have to back away from all this OTP dramas and answer the thing realistically. As a matter of fact, it is because of what we adopt for ages. what one prefers and define as having a partner depends on how they are born and raised and their religion and their preferences. however, most people would be inclined to not like to have 3 people in a relationship. why?

look up polygamy.

now, if you’re asking why it can’t be taenysic and was it due to the trend adopted for ages… you’re mixing THE reality with OTPs (a projection of OUR imagination on reality).

like.

really.

there’s a contest? o_o

Fx? Hmm. Yeah I think so lol.